Transitions/Life Changes

Transitions/ Life Change. Did you know there is a difference between transitions and change? Change is the situation, the action, moving to a new home., having a baby etc and Transition is the psychological, how you perceive the situation or change. What you think about what happens to you has a great impact on how you respond. If you think it is a bad thing, then you might experience denial, or rebellious behaivor. If you think it is a good thing then you might embrace it for what it is. Sometimes we do the changing and sometimes change does us,. the times when we don't want the change. Its those times that are the most difficult. We spend some time in denial, or we say, this is too hard I don't want to deal with it. When this happens, we stay stuck and can't move forward and accept the change. Acceptance is really gut wrenching thing sometimes. We will first try to do everything to not accept, stay in denial, ignore it, rebell, but all this does is make us sick or can get us in trouble depending on the kind of rebellion we choose.
The psychological piece is the part that we struggle with. If we don't accept it it will take us a long time to move forward and we will suffer stress and be miserable. You can't make change go away. It tests our control issues big time. If we don't want the change , we feel powerless about it and that feeds into our self esteem. Also change brings fear, confusion, and when we dno't want to confront that we go back to our comfort zone, no matter how hard or negative it is.
When you chnage your thoughs you change your behavior. We need to try and be positive about every thing that happens to us. Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we handle it, yet we choose to dwell on the 10%.
Choose being positive. You will feel much better and have a happier life. Somnetimes you might need a life coach to help you through the transition. If this is true, please sign up for my free session to see if I can be of service to you. If not, find a way to embrace every experience in your life and learn the lessson that life is trying to give you.